ONE SIZE FITS....NO ONE?
The biggest thing I’ve learned is that everyone is different and there is absolutely NO one-size-fits-all approach to fitness and wellness. This is like a life-long science experiment with your body and it takes time, patience, and a true understanding of what jives with you and what to leave in the dust.
Since the beginning of the year, I’ve filled my schedule to the brim. My New Year’s resolution wasn’t to get shredded, lose weight, or even increase my back squat. My mission was (and will forever be) to help as many people as I can with the resources that I have available. I’ve been working with a business coach and I kept hearing him in my ear saying “You have to get people results or else why should they believe you can? If you want to train, then train!” That being said, I took to the internet and my network of friends and family to see who would be interested in my help. The response was overwhelming. I had struck the match and now there was a massive fire lit under my booty to get to work. After all, I had asked for this and it was damn well time to deliver. I took on a few clients in person and a few remote clients, for good measure. You see, this was partially a selfish undertaking…Of course I hoped that my clients would learn from me and apply the knowledge I bestowed upon them, but mostly, I wanted to learn from them. I needed a deeper understanding of people. I wanted to know what made them tick, their relationships with food, exercise, and self-image, what works and what doesn’t work. I wanted to work with a variety of people with different lifestyles, different levels of motivation, different bodily issues, and different psychology.
This has been the best learning experience of my life, thus far.
The biggest thing I’ve learned is that everyone is different and there is absolutely NO one-size-fits-all approach to fitness and wellness. This is like a life-long science experiment with your body and it takes time, patience, and a true understanding of what jives with you and what to leave in the dust. However, now I have a toolbox filled with ideas. I know ways to assess, strategies to tackle common problems, and I have a different perception of motivation and how it really works.
What has really made an impact and resonated with me has been the realization that I’m not simply teaching people how to lose weight, build muscle, or even just feel better. I’m teaching them SKILLS to help reach those goals. Goals are important to set and it’s lovely to dream about what life could be like if you achieved those goals…But when it’s broken down into actionable steps, goals are actually achieved and results are maintained by constantly practicing the skills that it takes.
Losing weight isn’t JUST about eating less. It’s about learning what it feels like to be full, eating slowly, learning when you are eating because you’re truly hungry vs. eating emotionally, eating a variety of fruits and vegetables, eating proper portions, etc and the list goes on. It seems like A LOT more than just “losing weight” when you actually break it down. Isn’t it crazy to assume someone could learn all of those things at once? Maybe 2% of the population can. I don’t like those odds.
Things that make all the difference:
1. Be realistic.
2. Be patient.
3. Have laser focused attention on ONE HABIT at a time.
Which leads me into the juicy meat of this article... are you salivating yet?
THE ONE THING APPROACH
Ahhhh…the single best realization I’ve had on my coaching adventure. This is mostly to avoid overwhelm and not give up after one month of this journey and has been by far the best way for my variety of clients to achieve their goals. Because change is hard. Because it’s human to love cookies. And champagne. Yes, everyone has unique habits they want to form based on their lifestyles. That’s the beauty of this approach. It’s entirely personalized to you and your conditions. All you have to do is pick one thing to focus on each week. You want to feel 100% confident you can tackle that goal to the ground and pin it for a 3-count. Don’t add another habit change on until you feel this way about the previous habit. If you aren’t making progress, the habit change is too difficult and you must regress it.
Here are a couple examples that I’ve seen contribute to huge changes from my clients and my own experience with myself:
1. add one serving a veggies in per day
2. eat protein with every meal
3. don’t snack late night before bed
4. set a timer when you eat a meal so you don’t inhale it
5. don’t eat French fries everyday
6. don’t consume alcohol every night
7. prep your lunch instead of going out
8. don’t consume soda or sugary drinks
9. only eat one sweet per day
10. have fruit for dessert
11. eat 3 filling meals a day and no snacks in between
12. don’t eat peanut butter
Can you see how that would be a lot to change at once?? Keep in mind, the goal here isn’t to shame anyone about partaking in anything. Or even label foods as “good” and “bad.” The goal is to focus on what is preventing you from feeling your best and address it one a time. You’re going to have hiccups and that’s perfectly okay. In fact, I’ve found that an online forum where you log your habits with accountability from others is enormously helpful. It also provides a way to relate and share struggles along the way.
Mindfulness is a skill in itself and that’s what the forum and support of a community (and coach!) promotes.
Now, what are some habits you’d like to change?? What’s something you think is holding you back from feeling your best?! I’d love to know.. Shoot me a private message or comment below :)